Wednesday, July 22, 2015

Tarot: Spiritual Guidance not Gospel

My relationship with the Tarot has been a labor of love.  Like any birthing labor it has not always been easy.  I started out trying to memorize the symbolism which is not that difficult; when you are giving a reading however, people don't just want you to spout off what the meaning of the symbolism is.  They want to know how that card applies to their question.  Sometimes after expressing my intuitive take on the card I use the symbology to explain how I came up with what I did.  

There are those who look to the Tarot to tell them exactly what they should do or not do in a situation.  It is important to remember that the Tarot is not dogma or gospel.  It only shows us what is likely to happen should we keep on the same course.  You must consider that pesky thing called Free Will.  Once we know what is likely to be our outcome, we sometimes change our course.  This can then make what is predicted not be what actually happens.  This does not mean that your Tarotist was wrong, it means that you decided to change course which caused a different set of events to happen.

There is no question that the Tarot cannot answer.  When I was being trained I was told that for Wiccans / Pagans the Tarot is a sacred book, much like the Koran or Bible.  We can look to it to guide us in any situation.  The operative word here is "guide".  The Tarot cannot give you information as to how to control someone else, i.e., make your boyfriend be faithful.  It can tell you if he is likely to be faithful or not, nothing more.  A good Tarotist can’t make decisions for anyone. Tarot can help point out our innermost desires, fears and motivations. Armed with that knowledge, we have an easier time tuning in to our inner guidance, and making the authentic choices that will create the future we desire.
If you are interested in learning more or in having a Tarot reading you may contact me at one of the resources listed below.  This Saturday, July 25, I will be reading Tarot at 2015 Conscious Wellness Expo sponsored by the Boeing Employees Parapsychology Club.  I would love to see you there.
Blessings and Peace,
Sydney Bridges

Wednesday, July 8, 2015

Cumulative Grief: How to deal with multiple losses and recover from them

Cumulative Grief comes about when a person experiences one loss after another.  In a perfect world we would have the time to grieve and start living again from one loss before having to experience the next one.  Sadly, this is not always the case.  

One of the protection mechanisms utilized by our brains is the state of avoidance.  When we experience something that is horrific in nature, such as the loss of someone dear, there is a tendency to avoid thinking about the loss in order to maintain a semblance of normalcy in our lives.  We have to continue to live, work and to a degree interact with society; so we simply avoid thinking about our pain.

However, you cannot be in a state of avoidance indefinitely.  When loss follows quickly one after another, this state of avoidance grows until we find ourselves not really living our lives.  It is important to face the reality of the losses in order to not be consumed by them.
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One of the first things to do is realize that you are stuck in avoidance.  Knowing that these experiences can put you at risk for developing complicated grief symptoms is very important.  If you feel you are not handling your grief as well as you would like, there is help available to determine if you are sliding into complicated grief.

Recognize that everyone grieves differently and be compassionate to those friends and family who are handling their grief differently than you are.

Be aware of an increase in the use of alcohol or other substances to help you get through the day.  Many times those in avoidance will fall prey to addictions.

There is no time limit involved in dealing with multiple losses.  Multiple losses do not have to come in quick succession to one another, they may be spread out over many years.  Each new loss however, can renew the grief from the previous one.

One thing which can compound the grief from multiple losses is the age of the person experiencing the loss.  As we get older it more likely we will experience multiple losses due to the aging and illness of our friends and family.  This can also lead people to a crisis of faith; wondering why God would punish them in this way. 

If you have had multiple losses, please consider getting some professional help. You may be surprised by how much it helps. When you are already emotionally and physically exhausted from the pain of one loss, it can only help to seek support when more losses pile on. If that truly doesn’t feel right for you, consider other ways to attend to each of your losses. Learn about grief. Find a friend or family member to talk to. Write or journal. Find a creative outlet, like art or photography. Join a support group. Just make it something that works for you and that will allow you the opportunity to deal with each of these losses.

Blessings and Peace,

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